I hear people saying all the time, you must stay positive.
Well, positivity is more productive than negativity, but did you know that being positive can create negativity? Huuuhhh!!!!!
Think about this: You look in the mirror and you are not happy with the person that you see. So you proceed to practice being positive. “I love the person that I see. That person is slim. She/he is …..” You get the point.
Well doesn’t a little voice creep in and say “You are lying. Look at you. You are…”
What started out to be “positive” actually became a “negative” conversation. Which will create negative feelings. Which could create more stress or depression (depending on where you stand).
For an example: you have weeds in your garden. You decide to be positive by saying “there are no weeds, there are no weeds”. Well, recognize that you got weeds (get over it) and pull them out of your garden. Just being positive is not going to get rid of the weeds.
In some instances a negative is a positive. What?
Example: You are a person that gets angry and screams and creates havoc when a certain situation occurs. Now, you get angry and keep it inside. The anger is still a negative, but it is positive compared to the way you used to address the issue. Now you can work on moving from the anger stage.
By the way, in the weight conversation, a better statement may be “I am moving towards having the slim body that I dreamed about”. Isn’t that true. If you have made a decision to do something about your weight, aren’t you moving towards your goal? This will create better feelings because you know it is true and you can “Believe it”.
So bottom line, what am I saying? Just being positive is not the entire answer. It helps. You have to believe that there is a positive solution. The faith that you will figure a way out of it is what will create better feelings. The ideal is to create better feelings. Better feelings will release stress and that ultimately will create a positive environment.
It ain’t right. It ain’t wrong. It’s just my opinion.
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